“Life is not so much about beginnings and endings
as it is about going on and on and on.”
~ Anna Quindlen ~
This can be a bittersweet time of year for those of us who work closely with students. Our staff has spent the last week or so meeting with student leaders for their required one-on-one session with their advisor to reflect on their year and their own leadership experience. We talk about what they’ve learned. We talk about growth, overcoming obstacles, even areas that are still a challenge. It’s always good discussion, no matter if the feedback is positive or negative, and it’s a rare occasion for us to close the door and focus only on the student before us.
I began all my meetings this year with this question, “How is Name different today, than Name a year ago?” I’ve found that the question is often met with a moment of silence, a look to the ceiling, and then the crack of a smile.
“I’m more comfortable in my own skin.”
“I feel good about who I am today.”
“I know I can accomplish a goal, and I know how to rely on others to help me.”
These comments and reflections are priceless to me. I sit with them in my cluttered office, phone ringing, emails filing in my inbox. I see the pile of untouched committee work that needs my attention, and an unanswered phone call from my husband. And yet, it all disappears with the grin of a student who has something nice to say about themselves. I know how rare and precious this moment is and I want to consume every word.
These same students came in our doors a year (or two) ago, a semester ago, hanging their heads. Unwilling to speak in front of others. Unsure of their abilities. Sitting at the back of the room. Hats pulled low in front of their eyes. And yet, we bring these students together for a relatively short period of time, offering them little more than some of our time and energy, encouragement, a listening ear and a few challenges. We mix these important ingredients together, and we see heads raise. The hat comes off. The spine straightens. The negative thoughts are muffled.
Few people get that kind of reward at the end of a year. But I do. And I get it every year.
April is a crazy month for those of us who work in colleges and universities. We work long hours. On weekends and evenings. We skip lunch. We miss phone calls. But in return, we get lots of hugs. We honor and recognize lots of hard work. We say goodbye and good luck, and we send our now grinning, confident students away to change the world.
Amanda Capobianchi
Associate Dean of Student Life






